Life brings joy, sunshine, love, happiness but we can't feel any of that without the complications, storm clouds, and strain. So how do you deal with the rough patches?
Currently experiencing my own rough patch. Which has been created by that endless stream of job ads and applications and interviews with the unsatisfied feeling of finding something that I am actually interested in excelling at. Combine these ingredients with the pressure to just find something that pays more than my current job so I can afford to get my dog that $3k surgery he needs for his knee.
I look at these things and I think "Well, I created my own stress from this all, right? or are these actually stressful events that happen to coincide at the same time?" Really though, does the answer actually matter? Either way, I am feeling it and I need to overcome it before it leaks into other aspects of my life.
How do you get through it? I'm always looking for new suggestions. I have become really increasingly interested in the things that people do to cope and process their feelings. I have found that everyone handles situations differently, of course that is pretty obvious but what I mean is that we each have a unique way to get by. Why not share the way you do with someone else? Maybe your way with a little bit of their way might actually be more beneficial to you. I feel like, as a society, no one wants to talk about these things. As if expressing stress or dismay about something, no matter how small, is not accepted. It is saved for you and your therapist or your best friend. But why? You are you, I am me, but (outside of mental illness) we all feel emotions similarly, right? Why wouldn't the way you handle things make sense for me to give it a try?
I feel like we should be discussing these things more openly. For some reason, there is this cloud of "enlightenment" going around and that a positive mindset will be the answer to all things. Shove your feels of negativity aside and down - just think positively and that will cure all. What. Show me. Don't get me wrong, I definitely agree that you should always try to find, pull, and create something positive out of any scenario. But that is just not always possible. Shit happens. Deal with it, don't hide it or cloud it with an air of positivity.
Personally, I find that using this meditation app called Simple Habit while on walks with my dog (see below image I took of him last fall) has really changed the game for me. I also notice that if I don't exercise, specifically outside - in nature, at least 2-3 times a week, I am a wreck. An other thing I do, almost instinctively, is where I have uninterrupted time with me and my bed (and dog, there is really no choice there) possibly with or without a book for at least an hour every few days to just feel human again.
What works best for you?