Everybody can relate to 'The Great Pursuit'
What I mean about that is the pursuit of finding a job that aligns with you, your values, the culture you could bring to a company and making sure the position is actually something you're interested in doing.
Why is that so hard!?
It is my experience that it is so hard to find that diamond of a position for quite a few reasons that are your fault, society's fault, and the potential employer's fault and/or loss. To start it off, you are an adult, you have to learn to take credit for your own faults and work to overcome them. (If you don't think you have faults, you're wrong. Do a mock interview with someone and ask them to critique you with the blunt and honest truth. Do not be mad at them when they give it to you.) Those faults may or may not be that you're too lazy to put the work in to find something that actually fits you. Maybe you've backed yourself into a corner and you're at the point of desperation where money is tight and you need something now. Or you have a job now but spending PTO on going to interviews for jobs that you might not commit to is a tough price to pay. It could also be that you have no direction, you don't know what you want or what you're looking for and you're rapidly firing out applications. Rapid fire applying can lead to mix-ups where you don't even remember the job that you applied for and suddenly the company is calling you to set up an interview and you're lost. Which ends up with you showing up to the interview unprepared and you just wing it. Last but not least, as there are plenty more reasons, you didn't research the position, you didn't research the company and you didn't show up with at least one question to ask. And no, that question cannot be just about salary.
Don't be too butthurt for taking some, if not all, of the blame for your failure to find a job that you want. You can be relieved to know that some of that blame does go towards employers. Remind yourself of that at least once a day. As most employers do not take the time to get to know you or give you the chance beyond what your resume shows. It is as if they don't understand that experience is gained through someone giving you the chance to have it. You can't find a job without experience, but you can't gain experience without a job and you can't live off of a no paid internship. It is 2018, a majority of job seekers have rent to pay, mouths to feed, and student loans to pay - how do you do that with an internship where you are getting "paid with experience". I call bullshit. Everyone started somewhere. Everyone started with no experience. Give someone a chance. Honestly, that is all that it comes down to. I know that it takes money to train someone into the position you want them to be in and it is hard to give someone that time when in the end, there is no proof that it will actually work out. Well, let me ask this - does experience really prove that it will work out? I know myself, and I know that I have a very business savvy mindset and understanding of things that are not reflected on my resume because I haven't had the experience yet to put those skills into use. I can express it as much as possible in the interview, I can try to explain as much as possible in the cover letter or on my resume but it is my understanding that it doesn't matter. If it is not reflected in your job experience then it never happened.
Now, how fair is that?
How is anyone expected to get anywhere without experience? Well, I guess networking is the answer here but honestly, networking is not that easy and sometimes aint nobody got time for that. I know people working 2-3 jobs just to make rent. How are they supposed to gain experience or network when they barely have time to actually enjoy the sunshine? As a society, we let this continue and hopefully with our coming generations, we can change this as we are the ones who have experienced the difficulty of it the most.
We have to start giving people a chance.